The Art of Letting Go

Thursday, 24 August 2017

Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle
It starts slow. Almost too slow.

The memories wash upon the shore. They dig into rocks before tumbling back to the sea. I sit alone by the bay, watching the waves shift in sunlight. It is too hot today. I sweat in this heat but I enjoy the view. Where the sky meets sea, and dance across the line. 

I smile. 

Today is a beautiful day. Today, perhaps, I can finally let go.

Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle
Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle
Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle

I am not good at letting go.

My bedroom is a prime example.

Ripped posters still plastered on my wall. Broken makeup still hidden in their drawer. Letters still kept in a box. I should throw them away. They take up too much space. Useless junk even a hoarder would find excessive.

Yet here they are. Still plastered, still hidden, still kept. They remind me of better times even as insignificant as they may seem, and were. No matter how much I urge myself to leave them, they still remain etched in memory. I wait for the day I may actually forget them.

And sometimes, on those rare days, I do.

Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle
Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle
Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle

It doesn't happen in an instant. I wish it did. I wish I knew when to let go. Rather, it happened gradually.

A slip of the small things first. Birthdays, car rides, moments I thought I'd remember forever. Instant, time past. My thoughts faded. I became forgetful. Then, after a while, maybe a month or year, the things that were once so necessary in life became a footnote. A mere addition.

One day, the posters will tear and letters will be burnt. As time passes, they will become a remnant of things that once were. And just that. Nothing else, nothing more.

That is when you know, you can finally let go.

Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle
Brunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam MasleBrunei Life & Style Blogger, Bash Harry of Hey Bash discusses letting go in a collaboration shoot with Ejam Masle


shawl : Adlina Anis   |   top : Alia B.
jeans : Superdry   |   shoes : Summit
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For this post, Ejam and I collaborated for a by-the-beach shoot. I wished I knew that beforehand. Then I wouldn't have worn heels. Rocks and heels do not bode well together. As I've found out in
my go-to Black Summit Heels and Skinny Jeans.

For this shoot, I wore my new Adlina Anis Tri Silky Satin Scarf in Black, and Alia B. Top, I dipped into the cold water. Sweat trickling down my head. I hear clicks from the camera, then adjusted myself. I repeated this process until I stepped back onto shore. My feet covered in sand and sweat trickling down my forehead.

It was all worth it for these shots.

Ejam Masle is a wonderful photographer, making my awkward poses seem graceful. Go check him out!

So how do you let go?

with love,
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