Youtube | Short Stuff 01 : Kinds of Cool

Sunday, 28 February 2016

A M   I   C O O L   ?

Despite my depressing disposition on life saying otherwise, I like to think I am. I have my own kind of cool that I assure myself no one else has. My identity is unique like everyone else. So in a way, I'm cool. Cooler than anyone else while synchronously being the un-coolest one.

I've come to accept that. I won't be like everyone else nor will everyone else be like me.

So why don't I feel so cool?

Meg from A Little Twist Of... wrote a blog post detailing how comparing coolness can be damaging. At least, that's what I took from her post. Everyone compares one another, it is innate human instinct. Even I discussed how problematic comparison can be. However, being aware of these obstacles does not wondrously swat them away.

To acknowledge is one thing. To actively pursue is another.

Accepting your abilities and flaws, and acknowledging someone else's is terrifying but necessary. It is an accomplishment to realise. I will never be as pretty as her, but I've got makeup skills. I will never be as tall as her, but I know how to strut. I will never be as smart as her, but I can always learn.

She will never be as cool as me, because she's her own kind of cool. 

I don't think I have ever showed so much of my teeth in one post until now.

So I made a video about the different kinds of cool. A relatively short video, just under two minutes long. Hence the title, Short Stuff

It's something that I've have been mulling over and decided to post finally. It is a a monthly series in which I film my day and discuss topics that affected me in the month. 

That particular day, I was modelling for Cahaya Butik's new shawls. These were the photos taken. Most of my time that twilight was removing and applying shawls, with the help of my mother and sister. Thank you, glorified personal assistants. 

So what kind of cool are you?


  1. Now I'm craving fudge.

    THIS POST IS SO FREAKIN' AWESOME BASH, mainly because I agree with it so damn diddly much (getting my Ned Flanders 'awwwwn). We are all our own person, our own kind of cool as you say. We may not think we are the epitome of 'cool' as in the dictionary definition or box standard idea of what folks think, but that's great. I think cool, and beautiful and just words that society has defined and narrowed down into one particular thing are probably the words that have the most vast and varying definitions as we all bring something 'cool' to the table. The saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' is corny but kind of true. We judge ourselves too harsh, even if we think we don't. Other people notice the good things about us, even if we don't always do so and it's lovely to hear from people the things they think make us 'cool'.

    Basically, we need to own the things that make us different from everyone else, and those things we love so much as well.

    I don't even know what I am trying to get at but basically, I love this post.

    Meg | A Little Twist Of…

  2. BASHHH! I think you're SO cool! I've always struggled with the term cool in high school because all the cool kids in high school were either bad or mean. And I was the bright-ultimate-good-girl teachers loved so I thought I was the nerd. But in the last month of school, I came across a group of kids who thought I WAS THE COOLEST, it was so satisfying hear that. I call myself the cool kid now because I feel like it. My definition of cool is well behaving creative kids. And I love the idea of the video, honestly I can't wait to see more of them!!!

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  3. Great post dear! You look so beautiful! ❤
    xx Pisa

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  5. This was so powerful! I think you're an incredible human being and a really cool person. I love to come here and see your outfits or read the different things you're doing. And I admire how positive you are, of course that we will always have people around us that are worst or better but it's important to focus on ourselves. Also, I love your smile! You should take more pictures smiling, is really contagious :)
    Ps: The video was amazing!

  6. You're an incredible person! You're completely right, everyone is 'cool' in their own way! As long as you're able to rock being yourself and having confidence you'll be totally okay. Seems like a pretty windy day to model those! But you look great :)

    Lindsey Elyse | lindseyginge

  7. Aw Bash, this post is amazing! I think it's so important to embrace your eccentricities and personality because being yourself and owning it is what makes someone truly cool. Also blue looks gorgeous on you xo

  8. What a lovely post. Damn right you are cool! Everyone is in their own little way :)

    Lauren x |

  9. Agree that once you start a comparison there's no end to it, and it's ultimate pointless. Everyone is different; as cliche as that is, I think sometimes we just need a little reminder ;) Loving this shoot; your heels are gorgeous!

    xo, alice / T Y P E N U

  10. Beautiful smile and a thoughtful post! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog earlier- much appreciated :)


  11. Very inspiring words! Although I agree with you, I think I will still compare myself with others (such a bad habit) but I will try to look more for my strengths rather than weakness.

  12. Very beautiful and inspiring Bash! You rock shawls like nobody else girl! This reminds me of how Miranda Kerr puts it every women is a flower, some are roses, some tulips and others sunflowers. A rose can never be a tulip and vice versa but they are just as beautiful and unique in there own way. Comparing steals everything away from you but it can inspire you. We are all our own unique and cool selves!

  13. Great post and lovely pictures.

  14. Define cool. Hmmm. Loved the video, you are very unique, which is better then cool! And btw, only someone totally cool could make a video like that lol


  15. This is so wonderful! You look stunning too <3 xx

  16. This is such an amazing post Bash, I absolutely adore it. I don't think I've ever felt cool in my entire life and yet I've done some really cool things and have cool stories to tell. I think it's very much a confidence thing too and I really hope you get some more too lovely lady because you are wonderful!


  17. I guess I am a very grown-up kind of cool. The kind where I just know who I am and that I don't need to try and fit in and compare myself. That is the beauty of age: Being 37 I don't feel the need to keep up with actual trends and teen stars. Really liberating. Plus, I have achieved quite a lot I am proud of: My career, my family, these things. Knowing I did that makes me very secure, which is my kind of cool. even though I don't think anyone else would see it that way.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

  18. You are a beautiful person. Being ourselves and at that, accepting ourselves is one of the hardest things to do in life. To push past our insecurities. Nonetheless, it's one of the most gratifying experiences we'll ever go through in life. Because being us, these quirks we have, our perfect and imperfect side are exactly what we are. Who we are. It's what differentiates us from the rest of the world, what makes us one in a million. Every human being is different and that's at the end of the day, what makes them cool. What makes us cool.

    Lovely lovely post, definitely book marking! Thank you for being so open and kind hearted.

    Plus, you look absolutely stunning.

    Ella Pinto

  19. I think that comparison can be good up to a point if it drives someone to become better at what they do but it's important to celebrate our own idiosyncrasies!

  20. I think that comparison can be good up to a point if it drives someone to become better at what they do but it's important to celebrate our own idiosyncrasies!

  21. I learnt to embrace me flaws and all when I realised that even "cool people" struggle and most times want to be like others. Its a crazy cycle. Our flaws arent ugly, they are what makes us unique.
    Oversized Blazers, My New Love

  22. Beautiful post dear! I like this a lot.

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  23. BASH, YOU ARE COOL IN YOUR OWN WAY! Just as I am cool in my own way :) I love this post and how you speak your mind out about these kind of things, they are important. And I couldn't agree more with everything you have said :)

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

  24. Inspiring post! We should only really compare our past selves to our present selves in order to be the best version of ourselves all the time! Xx
    JO |

  25. great post and lovely photos :)
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  26. I love this post! Comparing ourselves to others is such a horrible thing, of which I am very guilty. I recently told my husband that once I started blogging I found myself comparing my blog, style, ect to others more and more. I also found myself wanting things I never wanted before. Of course his answer was to quit blogging. But instead I'm trying to ignore these things and be my own unique self like you are here. This is such a beautiful post.

  27. Bash I think you are so cool!! I love the way you style yourself. You definitely are cool and don't let anyone tell you any different! xxx

  28. This is one great, inspirational post! You are so, so cool! I love your style and your writing!

  29. They're really lovely shawls :) I have no interest in being "Cool" I am just me and I like that.

    Meme xx

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  30. Love this, you look gorgeous! I really like your blog, let me know if you would like to follow each other!

  31. You are so beautiful.xoxox


  32. This is such an important topic! I absolutely agree that everybody is their own kind of cool. I really like your views on life and people. And those shoes are sooooooo beautiful! | Acqua xx

  33. I think we are all cool in our own special ways but of course not everybody appreciates the same thing or in this case, the same kind of cool. We are all unique in our own special ways and it's fine if we're not trendy cool because if we are all the same, then the world would be a pretty boring place.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  34. Awwww, I really enjoy listening to your calm voice, Bash! I kinda believed comparing to others were a part of growing up. Now, when growed up (hopefully) :D I see adults still comparing with others. Maybe we all should accept us the way we're and believe in us more, for example like you do, Bash! Really admirable, dear! <3
    Hugs! And WELL DONE!

    xoxo Ira

  35. You're cool as a cucumbaa :)

  36. Great post! Loved the video

  37. What an inspiring post!!! Love it!!! =)

    - Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  38. fun vid!! :D thanks for sharing!

    Have a great week!
    Animated Confessions

  39. Great post lovely! The video was fab! xx

  40. You are absolutely beautiful and I really appreciated and enjoyed this post, Bash xx

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  41. Girl you are seriously so beautiful and I love the way you do makeup so much. Please come teach me how to do mine. Will have to watch your video later too!

    Rae | Love from Berlin

  42. Beautiful look! Great post!

  43. This is such a positive post and vid! I totally agree with you, I think there are far too many societal conformities to be considered 'cool', but I think we're all cool in our unique way and we shouldn't compare ourselves to others - something I've finally learnt at the age of 22!!

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