18 Things to Know Before Turning 18

Friday, 4 September 2015


As a teenage girl who just turned eighteen a little over week ago, I feel like it is time to give some sage advice. Of course, I am qualified. I have the experience and knowledge of eighteen-hood to tell you things you should listen to. After all, I am an adult.

Please recognise the sarcasm in my writing. 

I have some time to reflect. Childhood, teenagehood, hoods of life. A few things crossed my mind. Things I wish I knew when I was younger. Before becoming an adult, forced to do this and that. Not working or life hacks you can find with a quick google search. I wish I knew these lessons, have them ingrained in my brain. Lessons I wish I was taught when I was younger.

So I've compiled them. These are some things to know before turning 18.


1 | You don't owe anyone an explanation, even if they expect one.

2 | Beauty and intelligence are not mutually exclusive. You can call yourself beautiful and still be smart.

3 | Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Respect that.

4 | Some people are just not worth it. You will realize that after you give them all you're worth.

5 | Always listen, but don't forget to speak up. You have a voice for a reason

6 | You have permission to love yourself with what you have right now.

7 | Staying up late has its perks, but so does sleeping early.

8 | Trying to forgive and forget is noble, but there are some things you try to forgive and can't forget.

9 | You can be happy one day, and sad the next. It doesn't mean you're broken, just human.

10 | I have my own wounds, just like you. Looking at yours won’t heal mine, nor will mine heal yours.

11Everyone needs support, it’s not wrong to call your friend at 2 A.M when you need to scream.

12 | Someone can be your shoulder to cry on, but they cannot become your crutch.

13 | Actions speak louder than words. Words are nice, but actions make you realize how much, or how little, you matter.

14 | Not everyone you meet will like you. Most people you meet don't even like themselves.

15 | Don't victimise yourself when you did wrong, or villainize those who knew nothing.

16 | That 'One Day' may never come. So might as well do it now.

17 | You've got scars that may never heal. Bruises that left marks. Flaws etched into you. Wear them with pride. You fought battles and won.

18 | Above all, just live.


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I am not as well-versed or as melancholically mature as I seem to be. In fact, perhaps I'm just too emotional. Eighteen isn't that important of an age. I tell myself to calm my nerves.

These were just things I collected over time. Quips and sentences among crumpled paper or endless notes. Compiling them into this little article reminds me of what I should do, and should be. I recommend it to everyone. Writing things you want to know, or should have known.

So...

What things should you have known before turning 18?

66 comments

  1. Brilliant post as usual Bash :) Although this may be one of my favourites of yours x

    Phoebe | Phoebe’s Diaries

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  2. number 4 is so so true! And I too wish someone would have told me about number 7 :p

    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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  3. Brilliant things to know before turning 18 as well as for everyone else, this is some serious wisdom and I love it! Especially agree with number 16, "One Day" may never come indeed, we should seize the moment and live in the now! Have a great weekend, Bash :) x

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  4. Great list! Number one all the way, I wish I knew these things before I turned 18 (many moons ago)! Happy Belated Birthday!

    RedLip&Love

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  5. Have to agree with all of this!! Although I probably still need to learn some of it, and am only learning parts of it now, at 24!!

    Meg | A Little Twist Of…

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  6. This could qualify for 18 things to know before turning 21 too ;)
    though it doesn't have the same ring to it...

    Thanks for sharing :)
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  7. #16! yes don't put things off, this is the one I am currently trying ot master myself at 23 lol

    xx Sera | STARDUSTBOHEMIAN.COM

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  8. This is an awesome post, but while knowing all this before reaching 18 might have done some good, it doesn't necessarily mean we would have actually learned anything until we've have actually lived it, and even through living through all this we still find ourselves making the same mistakes, so the 19th thing you should always remember we are all humans, we live and learn.

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  9. Great list and all of them are so true! Wish I had known them way earlier when I was 18! x

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  10. Aw this post was so fun to read! Number 12 is so true, but then again a lot of them are. Great post!
    xo Kiki
    http://colormekiki.com/

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  11. I am 23 and wish I had read this list before I turned 18 haha I can still definitely relate to them though - thanks for creating such a fun post to read :)

    I have a new outfit post up on the blog, would love to know your thoughts:

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  12. Beautiful words. <3 haven't congratulated you on your birthday yet, so here I am.. a bit late, but have a lovely 18th year of life! X
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  13. Beautiful post Bash, number 13 is my fave.
    At 18 years old, i knew real friendship is forever no matter in what place on hearth you are, you will always know those real friends are with you.
    Happy Birthday!! May you received everything your heart desires.
    Glamoury Armory Blog

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  14. Oh, thank you for this, Bash. xx I adore your lists, did you know that? You have such a sweet way with words. This was exactly what I needed right now...
    ~ Sanjana
    peridotcove.blogspot.com

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  15. Great advice Bash! Random good advice I have is that if you're looking for love, basically stop looking, enjoy life, love yourself, and when the time is right they'll find you!
    Tegan xx - Permanent Procrastination

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  16. As a 22 year old I can agree with all of these. You are incredibly brilliant for writing this post and I hope you know that because this post takes real maturity to write and I loved reading it!

    Jenan
    http://lavieenmauve-jj.blogspot.ca/

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  17. Love love love this. Even at 17, I know how important all of the above is. Your words are your power Bash, and I love them so. <3

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  18. You are wise beyond your years lady. Very nicely written! And I agree with literally all of these.

    Xx Naomi in Wonderland

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  19. It's great you turned 18,congrats...Well I should have known that turning 18 wasn't exactly a pass to doing anything I want lol...I still have to do as my mum says because I still live in her house even though I'm 21.There's still the aspect of respect to elders
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  20. Happy belated birthday! I turned 18 too this year. Anyway, this is a nice list. I love number 7 and 10:D

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  21. Yaaasss, your advice is everything <3 Especially when it comes to that "one day" excuse---it just needs to stop! Live for today and not the dreamy future. What people fail to realize is the future that they dreamt of can be theirs! They just need to take the first step forward today and stop waiting for tomorrow.
    p.s. Happy Belated Birthday <3
    xxx
    She Will Be

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  22. I remember 18 but I didn't realize much of this back then. Happy belated birthday.

    /Avy

    http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com

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  23. brilliant post!

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  24. I love this! I definitely learn a lot by the time I was 18 now I'm 22 and you learn twice as much haha! x http://coffeeatmidnight13.blogspot.co.uk/

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  25. Great post! I'm totally agree :)

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  26. I'm happy to see such post like this from an 18 year old girl or might I say a lady.
    When i reach this age-- i'm telling you i don't have any thoughts like this-- i always go with the flow-- which i think you highlighted in here which is to live-- i hope everything will be just as simple just like before-- you know what i mean.
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  27. Great points, I think that you can relate to these no matter what age you are. I would add to the list: it's ok to not know what you want to do.

    I thought that I needed to have it all figure out, and I'm not 100% sure now at 23 years old.

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  28. Just live. Very well said! ♥

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  29. Awesome post! Very lovely photos too. Happy Monday dear! :)

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  30. Happy Belated Birthday! I agree with all the posts, especially respecting people for who they are because everyone is unique :)

    Velvet Blush

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  31. You gave amazing tips (or you shared with us with important life's lessons), I wish to know about them all when I was at your age, Bash :)

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  32. Definitely each thing of your list, Bash! Life is a stupid thing in general and we all have to go through it. Some of us earlier and some later. I also wish I was going through it earlier... but guess that's what defines us as individuals! Take care, babe!! <3

    xoxo Ira
    JOURNAL OF STYLE / BLOGLOVIN

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  33. There are a few things in there you should learn no matter the age.I am 36 now, but some of these lessons I only learned recently.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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  34. Very nice insights Bash. You are wise beyond your years. Happy Birthday!! :)

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  35. Such an interesting post indeed! Happy Bday beautiful! All the best!
    xx
    cvetybaby.com

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  36. Great post, i really enjoyed reading it being an 18 yo!

    lisa | lisaxbeauty

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  37. Congratulations on turning 18 dear.Enjoy everyday of it

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  38. Number 14 is so true , not everyone will like you , so one should just be themselves and be happy. Great post here.

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  39. So happy that I know all the things you say :) because now I'm 21!

    www.aishettina.blogspot.it

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  40. That's such a cool post! =)

    NEW POST on http://whattostyle.blogspot.com/

    xoxo,
    Jessica

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  41. 4 | Some people are just not worth it. You will realize that after you give them all you're worth. --- This I would say to my 18 year old self again and again.

    I love this post! <3

    Alex // www.lexidoodledoo.com

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  42. I like your writing style and this post is inspirational, even for those who are already past the 18-year mark! Something that I would have told myself when I was 18 would be...don't make time for people that don't care.

    a small bit

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  43. Haha fun post! :) Nr. 4 is SO true!

    Sarah x
    www.palmtreesandheels.blogspot.com

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  44. Great post, I wish I knew some of these things before turning 18!

    http://www.racheldinh.com

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  45. love it

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  46. Super cute post, I would have loved this advise as an awkward teen x

    Anna | aforvogue

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  47. Such a beautiful true list, I wish I knew that I was lovable sooner and that even though everything is dark and grey it will change eventually xx

    kinkx.blogspot.com

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  48. I wish I'd seen this post before I turned 18! D: xx
    alicelouisealk.com

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  49. I absolutely love this! I wish I could have stayed 18 forever, I am kind of dreading my 22nd now hahah but I love the thoughts <3 xxx

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  50. Yes! I always used to think I owed people an explanation for everything I did and was so happy when I realized I didn't - I mean, if they're not even your friend why do they need to know?

    xo, mikéla / simplydavelyn.com

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  51. Hey Bash,awesome,Im so proud of you I could be your mom you know (Im 39) happy to find your blog,im always excited about young bloggers and not just young but articulate.
    xoxo Bing.

    www.bingyourstyle.com

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  52. Awesome awesome awesome.
    Love 4,9 is PMS,13 touched me,14,,,what can I say you're awesome,awesome awesome.
    welcome to adulthood.
    xoxo Bing.

    www.bingyourstyle.com

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  53. great tips. Yout post is full of wisdom. ciao gloria
    Gloriadressup

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  54. Good to know :P

    The Cutielicious
    http://www.thecutielicious.com
    Federica

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  55. Your writing is beautiful. I felt really inspired by these thoughts especially the #5 about speaking up. I feel like this has been the one that I have had to learn the most up until now, my 23rd year. I was a shy kid and so using my voice does not come naturally. But I know that when I do not I am, well...not heard!

    Thanks for this.

    <3 LR

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  56. These are great tips! Suddenly inspired to write something like this for twenty-something :) and btw, Happy Belated Birthday!

    STYLE VANITY

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  57. There are some great pieces of advice in this list, well done!

    Bella Pummarola

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  58. I love number 9 and those heart shaped knits are so cute!

    Pop over to my blog!

    Sarah
    https://everydayconcepts.wordpress.com

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  59. Gosh, I wish I knew that earlier...

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  60. I really wish I was this wise as a teenager! Yes to all of these!

    Rowena @ rolala loves

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  61. This post made me smile! Turning 18 seems so long ago for me now. Love number 9.

    Jess
    myblogjessica.co.uk

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  62. I really, really love this. Thank you so much.
    <3 Fiona

    Kafkaesque?

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