Letters | To Syasya, Adam & Aisyah

Friday, 14 August 2015


Here's something funny. I'm the eldest of four kids, and we're all born in August. 

Though my birthday has yet to pass, their birthdays have sailed smoothly. Born within a week of each other. Cakes bought, candles blown, mouths stuffed. I have to wait till' the 25th for my cake, but it's okay. It will correspond with the end of my exams. 

Birthdays are important in my family, they have always been important. Growing, changing, and celebrating the years you lived and will live. There are things I'd like to write that I won't say aloud. This is to my favourite nuisances in the world. 



having fun

You're seventeen now.

For the next two weeks, you and I will be the same age. You will remind me every day. I’m going to give you a hug that will last ten seconds, then tell you that it will get harder from now. Sixteen is a quick gust of wind compared to the tornado of seventeen. I’m hoping that my big sister wisdom has rubbed off on you. Though, only time will tell if you actually listened.

I’m happy to know you’re happy. You’re stressed by the same things I stressed over last year. School, friends, teenage trifling. Trust me, you’ll get through it. I won’t tell you that but know I mean it.

Understand that life is life. My life is different than yours, yours is different than mine. I try extremely hard so they won’t meet. It is not because I don’t want you to be a part of my life. It’s because I want you to have your own. Your life will be grand, with odd adventures that I won’t be a part of with people I may never meet.

That’s okay. Live your life, I’ll just watch.


I don’t care if you’re fifteen, or that you’re taller than me by a foot. You’re still my baby brother who drooled on my dresses but smiled wide enough to make me forget.

You look like me now with a bigger nose and bawdier eyebrows. You will be popular with girls that I will have to scare away. I’m excited to see the fear in their eyes when they see me. They will try and fail to gain my approval. You’re my baby boy, my favourite (and only) brother, and you’re special. I coddle you when Mom isn’t there to.

I can’t tell you how life will be like at fifteen. I want to think it would be like mine. In truth, you’re a boy studying in a different school and doing different things. I don't know how to explain teenage boyhood to you. I'd ask you to ask Dad, but I don't think he even knows. So here's what I'm going to tell you instead. I love you, and you should say that to me more.

And stop calling me Kaka Bob.


Ten years old and still growing up. You have lived a good decade. Among us four, you are by far the loudest. That says a lot considering we are all loud, boisterous and opinionated. Much to the dismay of our parents.

You gained my strong sense of sarcasm and wit, and inherited Syasya’s aggressive emotions. A horrible combination placed in a little girl on the brink of puberty. I might not be around to see you grow up. When your voice deepens, when you sprout six inches of height, when you have to face your fear of bras. I might be far away, studying something or too immersed in my own problems to see. I'm apologizing in advance.

I'm sorry I can't be your big sister for the next decade of your life. I'll be it in name, but I can't teach you about boys or clothes or school. Mom may try but she'll fail, and Syasya is more clueless than I am. I can only hope you will give me a call, to help figure out this pubescent stage. Just like I help you turn on the TV everyday.

Wow, this has been emotional. Excuse me while I compose myself and become the detached big sister archetype again. 

Jokes aside, I hope you enjoyed this semi-personal post of mine. Whether you're a big sister or little sister or only child, it's important to impose some 'wisdom' onto the people you love. Or at least tell them you love them. 

So what would you say to your siblings?


  1. Lovely photos dear!!


  2. this is so cute! :D

    now that my brother and I are all "grown" ups, we dont get to do more things together, so enjoy your siblings as much as you can!

    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  3. This is so sweet, love this post very lovely. Hope you have a good weekend dear.

  4. Such a sweet message to send out to your siblings! You're really lucky to have so much love in your family!
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  5. Aww such a lovely post... love the photos xx


  6. Awww, you and your siblings are so sweet! That's amazing that you're all born in August, what are the odds!! I love this idea, I want to write letters to my brother and sister, too, so thank you for sharing such an awesome idea :) x

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  7. This was such a sweet post, I loved reading it! That is so amazing/crazy that your entire family have birthdays in August, what are the chances? You are a great big sister, this was so thoughtful! Loved this! XO -Kim

  8. This is such an amazing post! I love that you dedicated a part to each sibling! Plus you guys are all really cute and look alike!


    1. Dear Kaka Bob! ;-D
      This post has really touched my heart, Bash! Growing up is such a big deal and the doors of adulthood are not kindly open so you have to fight for your rights and view. And I think it's more than amazing of your to share your wisdom with your brother and sister. My younger brother is taller than me too but he always gonna be my baby bro! ;)) Happy Sunday, Bash!

      xoxo Ira

  9. This is so sweet. Happy birthday to all your siblings and Happy birthday to you xx

  10. It was so lovely reading this post. I have siblings, 3 of them but they are all much older than I am (20 to 23 years apart) I sometimes wish I had had someone to play with at all times when I was little. I guess we're not really as close as I would have hoped for but being much younger than them had it's good sides too. I was spoiled rotten as a kid for sure and they taught me a lot often without even realising it.

    Happy belated birthday to your brother and sisters and happy birthday in advance to you ;) ! Your parents are blessed to have such beautiful children !

    xx, Charlie

  11. I tell my younger brother to stop being such a doofus most of the time & to make good decisions! He thinks he's so cool :-D lovely post! xx adaatude.com

  12. I'm a big sister! Of just one, though, and thankfully too--my little brother has enough sass for about ten siblings, and he's only eight! But I love him, and I don't know what I'm going to do when he gets that voice change and the little hair on his face...*quiet sobbing*

    Ahem, anyway, happy birthday to all of you! I have a strong feeling that your parents may or may not have timed that birthday thing haha. I've got some friends who all have birthdays in January--two of them are sisters from one family, and the other two are a brother and sister from a different family. And I feel like their parents timed that, too... :P

    (But what am I talking about? My brother and I both have birthdays and July! So I guess it is all coincidence...although my brother was supposed to be born in August...okay, my head is starting to hurt with all this birthday time travel :P)

    O | Life as a Young Lady

  13. Well, wow, Bash that was deep!
    I'm almost carried away :)
    So sweet of this letter, thanks for sharing!
    And hope you guys have an amazing birthday

    Jhem | JhemSays.com

  14. aww this is so adorable, i loved reading this and i hope your family felt the same way :') x x


  15. funny and great photos ^^


  16. Wow, your letter to your sisters and brother are so emotional, Bash, what's more in my family the birthdays are also very important :)


  17. This is the most adorable post I have ever come across. Your writing style is so funky and poetic, and your advice is so heartfelt!

    It's amazing how you're all born in the same month - August must be a pricey and hectic month for all of your trying to find presents haha!

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