To Evolving Friends

Tuesday, 7 July 2015

There is a certain melancholy to growing up.

The realization you’re maturing, improving and evolving. You’re not the same person you were at fourteen. When problems you have now seemed improbable then. When goals you had then seem so close now. When life now seems almost bizarre.

You can’t help but to look back at our past sometimes, just to look towards our future. You have to think of the future when you're at the cusp of adulthood. When you are no longer the child in the past but an adult with a future. I don’t want to think of the future just yet. There's so much to live for in the present.

After all, I’m only seventeen.

I recently had dinner with my friends, many I’ve known for almost four years now. They were about twenty of us here, many left out from the photos (sorry guys). Attached by the hip through a dramatic society. Dramatic children with big dreams and even bigger hearts. Hence in clusters, we’re so boisterous, childish and human. Laughing loudly from stories told and jokes going farther then they should.

We meet sporadically throughout the year, just to hang out and be together. It’s inevitable you become close. When you've known them for so long, most have been through important points of your teenage life. You develop together.

The persistent theme of our future loomed over our heads. University, Work, Life. We would never have discussed this at fourteen. We would discuss boy bands and school. But we’re young adults now, with our future at our fingertips. We have the future to look forward to. University, Work, Life. 

This is the now, and we are so different. We’re older. We’ve settled into our features and young adulthood. We become more realistic. Another word for cynical. Perhaps that’s just me. I consider myself an optimist but nowadays, I’m not quite sure. Growing up means being unsure of many things.

Many of us are still in school, many of us have graduated, and many of us have left. Most of my friends are working, or furthering their studies abroad or traveling to unknowns. I’m still here. In my bedroom, typing away at 11 PM and hoping I’ll still be attentive enough to finish my History homework later.

I shouldn’t be so focused on the future while I still have the present. My present is heaps of homework I’m avoiding and the friends I don’t want to forget. The friends I can't forget. To friends I cried goodbyes, and to friends I never said goodbye. When you grow older, you say goodbyes more often, and some of them become the last.

To my friends, I bid you adieu but never goodbye. We will see each other again, probably in a week or two. Relaxing and eating as we always do. Perhaps then, we may forget about our future.

These are the moments I want to remember.

Being silly, stupid and young. Laughing loudly from stories told and jokes going farther than they should. Forgetting how vast and empty the future is and just focus on the present.

When we’re together and nothing else matters. When I can see excitement and joy in their eyes just by being here. When we aren’t so caught up in the future and we could see what we have now. And what I have now is an amazing cluster of friends.

So cheers to friends. Those who stayed, those who left, and those who will leave. To friends who are starting their own businesses and finding success. To friends who will travel far off and have adventures of small grandeur. To friends who find new love but will never leave the old.

Cheers to us, and let’s drink to adulthood.

P.S Thank you Wafaa for taking most of these photos. I want that camera. And thank you Saf for reading the first draft. You're a beautiful proof-reader.


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  2. This post was so amazing. I loved hearing your thoughts, your doubts, your everything. I'm older and I went through a period where I doubted a lot of things were possible after I graduated. I don't feel that way anymore. I'm actually happy that I don't know what my future is because I still think anything is possible. It's just that now that I'm a little older, I know that to make it happen you gotta focus on a few things.

    But first, hopefully you can focus on finishing that history homework ;)

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  3. it's great that you have friends you can count on and be silly with. Truly inspiring friendships that us older gals can learn from :)

    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  4. Such a lovely post, I think just in general people will come and go in your life that's how we find out who are true friends are! x

    1. That's so true! I'm happy you have those amazing people surround you, Bash! You can be so proud of your friends! I've lost many of mine from the youth! But it's ok because I've get to know so many new ones! <3 And I couldn't be more happier about that! Thank you for beeing one of those, my dear! ;-**

      xoxo Ira

  5. so many happy faces:) it look amazing:)

  6. I loved this. Loved it.

    When I was still in A Levels, still studying, still had a reason to have a social circle for reasons such as group projects, or de-stressing sessions, all I could do was think of the future. It was my entire motivation. I left the present behind and traveled to the future, something I wish I hadn't done, really, because what I have now is the little scraps of my past, the dead present, and nothing else. I've been through lots of phases, and the greatest ideas and realisations of these periodicity all stem from one thing; that the future can be changed, but the present? It'll pass away as quickly as a snap of one's finger.

    So I applaud you for being able to live in the present, and being able to cherish the friends you have now. You're a great person, one who clearly holds dear to her heart the idea of friendship, and the physical people you have around you. Me? Well, let's just say I'm trying to change that. Cheers to the present, Bash. Good luck, my best wishes, and lots of love to you, and to your friends.

    May • THE MAYDEN

  7. SO HAPPY people!!! :) it's good to look at :)

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  8. Looks like you guys had so much fun


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  10. Happy photos!! Girls look so cute.

  11. Love this! <3
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  12. When you're young you wonder how you would live without these people who you spent time with everyday. It's sad to see people slowly fade away from each other, but it's inevitable and the great thing about life is that you will definitely find more!

    A lot of my friends stayed in the same city whereas I moved away, we meet up about 2-3 times a year and speak occasionally. Although we don't see each other as much anymore, we go straight back to our high school days when we are together!
    Those are the people you should cherish!

    Lovely post hun :)

  13. That's what friends are for ;)

    The Cutielicious

  14. I love the way you write!! And hey, have all the fun you can as a youngster! (Actually, just have fun throughout your life), but hopefully you'll be able to keep in touch with people through the years :)

    Meg | A Little Twist Of…

  15. What a lovely post!

    Glad you had a lovely time!

    Lima | Fashionicide


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  17. The scarf looks so beautiful on you, especially that colour! Loved the pictures hun!


  18. It is an interesting time growing up and starting to all go off in different directions in life! It's great you can still catch up with all of your friends regularly - friends and family are the most important thing :)

    Away From The Blue

  19. Omg Bash, this is such a beautifully written post, I almost got tears in my eyes while reading it. I couldn't help but thinking of those friends and our goodbyes, or in my fun teenage years. I'm not that old, tho haha, I'm in my twenties, but I start feeling the weight of my years now. Enjoy your present as much as you can, dear! Great things come with adulthood, but there's nothing like being 17 with an entire world of opportunities awaiting for you... :)

  20. You are gorgeous!
    And i love seeing how you are having fun with your friends, enjoy the day! xx

  21. Lovely, silly, and fun photos!

  22. Bash you honestly are sooo good at expressing relatable feelings through words. It's crazy how quickly this in between stage seems to have crept up on us isn't it? Seventeen year olds seemed so much older when we were 10. I don't feel nearly as grown up as I thought those 17 year olds to be.
    Can I just say how stunning you look in every single photo too! Your hijab accentuates your cheekbones so well and you're just so beautiful!
    lily x

  23. You seriously rock every single colour scarf Bash! Entering adult hood is such a scary but exciting thing... sometimes it's the best thing with so much freedom but other times you kind of just want to hide under a rock with the responsibilities it brings. I left school at 16 and studied hairdressing for a year, there was something very special about being a teenager in an adult world it was like I only had just a little bit of that responsibility that the adult world brings but yet I had a whole lot more freedom. Enjoy the now! <3

  24. No need to be cynical yet, you're only 17! I guess you should be thinking about some adult responsibilities, but remember to have fun! You're still pretty much a kid! I mean, I'm 26 and I consider myself kind of a kid lol


  25. It sounds like you had a wonderful time with your friends! Growing up can be so crazy, and it's wonderful that you have a huge group of friends to support each other ♥
    Amy xx

    Little Moon Dragon

  26. I loved how you mentioned that the future will come and it's true I mean it's better to just enjoy the time you have now because if your constantly living in the future and the past you'll never live in the present. It seems like you guys had a lot of fun! :) and it's great that you all try to hang out when you can <3


  27. Positive and cute photos))

  28. It's great to be at 17 :)! Hope you enjoy everyday of it!


  29. You're truly beautiful :)

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  30. Love the style of your blog, it's so nice and you've got such a wonderful unique style, it does really inspire me a lot :) keep going like this girl :D
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    Laura xx

  31. Loved to read your post and your thoughts :) so lovely AMD beautiful pics and all of your were smiling :)

  32. Loved to read your post and your thoughts :) so lovely AMD beautiful pics and all of your were smiling :)

  33. Loved to read your post and your thoughts :) so lovely AMD beautiful pics and all of your were smiling :)

  34. This is a really sweet post! It's true that friends will always come and go. That's why I really cherish those who stayed. Cheers to friendships!!


  35. nice fun pics. All of your are looking cute :)

  36. Bash... you're so pretty. <3
    Love the post!

  37. Love this, beautiful friends.



  38. Your post is amazing and moving, Bash! Cheers to the friends and to the present, dear! And btw, there is nothing wrong with growing up, dear, I have just graduated my studies and I think that experiences like this one are worth to grow up ;)

  39. What a beautiful story, Bash! I really love every single of it. I think you should enjoy your seventeen, starting for this year your life will fly faster. I'm agree with your world that growing up means being unsure of many things, but that's amazing about it. God give us choice to chosen our future. btw, you should make hijab tutorial, I really like your hijab in this photos :)

    xxx June

  40. What a beautiful post! I completely agree, as I'm growing up; time is going by faster.
    Fatima x

  41. Only 17 and totally kellin it!

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  42. This is a lovely lovely post, you are a gorgeous girl inside and out! Your friends also look like SO MUCH FUN
    Hope you've had a great day,
    Bethany x

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  43. nice pics!! :)

  44. Such a great post on friendships!!
    Sending you much love & I hope your Wednesday is as beautiful like you!!!
    xoxo, Vanessa

  45. You're right. A big part of growing older is uncertainty. We have this idea when we're kids that adults know exactly what they're doing and when we get, we find out differently. But that's part of life and its amazing and infuriating journey. :)

    <3 Trou
    The Peculiar Trouth

  46. ahhhh!! lots of amazing memories come to my mind! I remembered my !7!! those perfect years!! Love al the pictures you are always so beautiful!!.
    Glamoury Armory Blog

  47. aaww so sweet and thoughtful!! cheers to friendship indeed!

    Animated Confessions

  48. I wish I stayed in touch with my high school and college friends but we all went our separate ways and many of us moved to different countries. Love the last picture of you, super sweet and lovely!

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  49. Hello,

    Beautiful post ! :D


  50. Friends are the best treasure in life.
    They know everything about you.
    I have few true friends and I loved them so much
    I love this fun photos.

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  51. Great friends are so important, looks like you had a great time!

    xx Falasha
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  52. Lovely post! Always hold on to your old friends. They know you best!

  53. What a lovely post! Just by reading it I can tell that you have some amazing friends! xx

    Sara Wallflower

  54. You actually have a very mature and pretty face for a seventeen year-old. Well, it's either that or I just look too young for my age. But anyway, you look so beautiful and you look so great with your friends. They seem awesome :)

  55. Bash, another great read from you ! I'm glad you have met a wonderful set of friends you can shares your dreams with. Always cherish your time with your friends and I wish all of you an everlasting friendship (: Btw, I recently nominated you with the "Versatil Blogger Award," check it out here (:


  56. This was brilliant! You all look like you are having a great time and simply enjoying the little things! That is one of my mottos and I'm glad we share the similarity! x

  57. Great post and lovely pics. ciao gloria


  58. Great friends that you can grow up with are everything!

  59. Beautiful piece, Bash. I feel a lot of what you say, and I think living in the present is something that I've had to pick up along the way more than it coming naturally to me. But yes, life is too short to spend the present worrying about what might happen tomorrow. It's a waste of time, and time is all we have xxx

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  60. Your posts always entertain and amuse me! just like this article ♥

    New style post now posted sweetie :)

  61. SO pretty mashaallah! You look more beautiful when wearing hijab <3

  62. I love these photos- and you have such a great group of friends. Growing up is hard, but necessary. You become who you're supposed to be- it's crazy, but it's true. :)

    Le Stylo Rouge

  63. Beautiful photos!

    Danika Maia

  64. You look amazing! and the scarf colour suit you well :)
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  65. Such a beautiful words Bash, it was very interesting to read your post and it's so great that you have so many friends!
    Love the photos when you are smiling)


  66. The future is daunting and even now as an "adult" I'm really terrified and excited for what's in store for me. It's hard to see less and less of your friends as you grow up and you all start doing different things, but I totally agree that it's important to remember all of those good times. Great post Bash. :)

    x beauty, style, life | bespectacled

  67. "Cheers to us and let's drink to adulthood" all of the yes-ses in the world to that!

    Naomi in Wonderland

  68. Hope you're having amazing Friday, Bash :)

  69. Cool :)


  70. Amazing pics!
    Have a nice weekend baby

    Alice Cerea,

  71. Such a lovely post and seeing people connected like this - cute! :)

    Layla xx

  72. I miss being young...I have worries of bills, uni and finding work now - ugh :(

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  73. Such a lovely post.
    Friends you can count is all we need.
    The future is great for you.