#Dear Me | Letters to My Younger Self

Sunday, 8 March 2015

In support of International Women's Day, many women have come out with a letter to their younger selves. This is to give advice to their past self and genuinely support themselves at the young age when they were still figuring everything out. And hopefully, give young girls advice as well. I think this is beautiful, showing the difference as we were and as we are.

While this is mostly created by adult women speaking to their teenage self, I am a teenage speaking much younger selves. Things I wish I had known, and should have knew. So here is mine.

Dear Bash…

At 8 | You can’t wait to be a teen. You keep telling your big brother substitute that you’ll be 13 in just five years then all the cool things will happen. But Peter Pan was right. Please stay a child. Stay a child with a hopeful smile and bright eyes. Keep believing fairies, wishes and dragons. Stay curious and innocent. You shouldn't want to be a grown up.  Grown-ups should want to be you.

At 11 | You are so beautiful even if you don't believe it. You ask people if they think you’re pretty, and deny it when they answer. You want to be pretty, like all the girls on TV. They don’t have crooked teeth, pale skin or a chubby face. You want to be girly and cute, like the Barbies and Bratz you still keep. But one day, you will look into a mirror and finally say ‘I am beautiful.’

At 13 | This has been a rough year. You’re confused, terrified and alone. There is a hole in your heart that won’t go away, so you push good people aside and keep those toxic beside you. Please don’t. Fill that emptiness with good people, laughter, and words to write. You always loved writing. You’re so strong and I am so proud of you. Hang on for me. It’s going to be worth it.

At 15 | Join everything. Engaging yourself in activities and communities will bring you so much joy. In one of these societies you joined, the greatest people in the world await. They will be your family, growing together both as individuals and a whole. It will be your haven until now. Let yourself go, and you will be amazed. The best things in life will always come as a surprise.

At 17 | Hey, Present-Me. Right now, you’re nervous, scared and unsure. You don’t what to do, and you don’t know whether you really are taking control or just prolonging the inevitable. I don’t have the solution. But I know you’ll get through it. You always do. One day you will be the beautiful badass in blood-red lipstick with a twinkle in her eye. I just know it. Stay strong, stay powerful.

(And an extra one just in case)

In the Future | I don’t care what age you are. 18, 30, 50 or 80… just know I love you and you make me so proud. You are f*cking awesome. 

My blood flowed with passion while writing this. Perhaps recalling the past motivates me to do better for the future. It does make me wonder, what would you say to past self? When you were my age or younger? Perhaps advice that you wish you were given?

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  1. This is beautifully written :) And happy International Women's Day! We rock! :)


  2. Such a cool idea for a post, it really helps your reflect back on life and make you realise what things you shouldn't waste your life doing!

  3. I love the 'Dear Me' blog posts and videos going around, and yours is a very emotional and inspiring one!

  4. Great post.
    We're same, i have something like this too but I keep it on myself.
    IT's nice to see messages from you in the past.

    Check my new post.

  5. Love tip 15! Lovely post idea :) I'm now following you on Bloglovin, great blog Rebecca | www.rebeccamariee.blogspot.com xx

  6. Beautiful post !! Happy International Women's Day!


  7. YESSS! Love this, so so good. Super powerful letter, especially the ending. We should ALWAYS be proud of ourselves.

    XO naomi @ Naomi in Wonderland

  8. aaww.. this is a great lovely idea!

    have a great week, dear!
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  9. This is such a cute idea, I love it!

  10. Love this! I'd tell my younger self to stop worrying so much and keep persevering with the things I really want to do in life. x

    Kate Louise Blogs

  11. Such a lovely and creative post on self-exploration! Thanks for sharing!


  12. This is a lovely idea. I wish I knew what was coming when I was younger or for someone to tell me it was ok. I wouldn't be 15 again if someone paid me thats for sure!


  13. Lovely post!


  14. Oh Bash, this is an absolutely stunning piece, I actually welled up and got really emotional whilst reading it as I related to so much of it. My favourite post in a long time! :)


  15. Everything you have written is so true and an honest glimpse back into the things we used to think about at each of these times in our lives.


  16. Such a beautiful post and idea <3 Happy International Women's Day!!


  17. great post that inspire me

  18. This is so beautiful it made me feel nostalgic and melancholic. ♥ I also regret that when I was still a kid, I wanted to grow up so bad but now that I'm older I realized life is harder and sometimes I just can't take it I need support from others. I miss being a kid. Peter Pan was right. :(

    By the way, is it okay if I grab this for my blog? There are a lot of things I want to tell my younger self. Haha. xx

    Roxanne ♥ | Awkward Turtle

  19. Great post hun! Thanks for leaving a lovely comment. Followed you on G+ and twitter if you have GFC let me know I will follow!!

  20. This is such a truthful post. I loved reading it. I should do this as well.. so many ups and owns in life and I always ooh back and think how much I could conquer with the knowledge I have now!



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  21. I wasn't an inch as polished as you are at 17, great post and keep at it!


  22. Ooooh super cute!!
    Kisses from Spain.
    Xoxo, P.

    My Showroom

  23. Amazingly written Bash, absolutely adored reading this! Loved the future part - you really are amazing and should never forget that! x

  24. So well put, Bash. You seem very mature & articulate for 17. If I could even tell 21-year-old self something, let alone my teen self, I'd say do you. Girl just do you. Everyone has an opinion & they will force theirs on you. Just. Do. You.

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  25. This was such a wonderful post. So touching and so amazing.

    Kay of Pure & Complex

  26. This is beautiful and Nicely written. I love what you wrote to your future self, I think all women should try this out.

    Princess Audu

  27. Belated happy Women's day! :) Lovely letter, I wonder what I will tell my younger self LOL


  28. Such a sweet post! Happy International Women's Day!

    XX, SS || A Little Seersucker Sass

  29. Hey Bash! Great post :) I tagged you in my Take Back What’s Yours Campaign! Here’s the link http://www.amandasays.org.uk/2015/03/take-back-whats-yours/ so please have a look when you’re free x

    Amanda Winchester ♥ | AmandaSays

  30. I love this idea for a post - great blog! :)


  31. I would tell 15-year old me not to let people get me down, and to ignore those who bullied me in high-school. I really let it get to me and I can now see just how much it affected me - I held myself back from doing so many things because of my experience with bullying.

    I'm a newbie blogger hoping to make some like-minded blogger friends, get in touch if you're interested :3 xx


    xx Chontelle Louise